Tips for a first-time sex party

Non-monogamy is becoming more common and popular nowadays. However, a completely open relationship is certainly not for everyone. If you think that you are ready for such an exciting step, it can be interesting to take your partner to a sex party or swingers club. Before you go, it’s important to think about how you envision this and make clear agreements so you don’t unintentionally hurt each other. We give you some useful tips to prepare for your first sex party.

Fantasize together

Before you take the step go to a swingers club, it can be very exciting to fantasize about it together first. Take time to discuss your fantasies and expectations together. Tell about what you imagine the room looks like, what kind of people you think you will encounter, what outfit you would wear, whether you’d want to drink alcohol or maybe even do drugs and whether you want to do everything together or maybe want to make contact separately too. Consider the various scenarios and discuss them in detail. It’s exciting to fantasize together and at the same time also very convenient to talk about things this way. It’s a way to find out whether there are situations you might feel less comfortable with.

Rules rule

It may sound a bit dull and dusty, but it’s really crucial to decide and agree on your do’s and don’ts for when you are in the club. Some couples choose to just talk and watch the first time. You can play it safe by agreeing to keep your clothes on the first time, to not kiss or fool around with others and even not to have sex together. That way, you can check out whether your first time at such a party meets both your expectations. Of course you can devour each other afterwards, because, even with these rules, the whole experience will probably be a huge turn-on. Also think about whether you want to wear a provocative outfit, and whether you consider it a good idea to individually have conversations with other people and couples and discuss what you’ll do if you suddenly come across someone you know.

Respect each other’s boundaries

Some couples think ‘we’ll see’ is a good approach, but unfortunately such an approach often causes problems. The last thing you want, is to unintentionally hurt each other because you accidentally crossed boundaries. So make sure that you know exactly what each of you feels comfortable with and respect your partner if they only want to take small steps in this new adventure. Promise each other that if either of you wants to leave, you both just get your things and go without question. If it turns out that something like this is just a bit too exciting for you right now, you can still give it a go some other time.

Do research

There are all kinds of different parties and clubs that attract different people. Investigate what you like and what kind of party you’d feel most comfortable with. Check out the dress code and what kind of music will be played. A lot of swingers clubs also organize evenings especially for newbies. If you are afraid of being recognized, you can consider going to a party or club across the border to make your naughty dreams come true in an anonymous way.