Sex toys for couples: where to start?

Sex toys are no longer taboo – in fact, they’re the way to improve your sex life and experience more pleasure with your partner. Whether you are looking for extra stimulation in bed or want to give your sex life an exciting twist, sex toys are the perfect way to discover new things together. But where to start as a couple? 

1. Start the conversation

Start with a good conversation, before getting to work with toys. Create a romantic ambiance and make time for sharing your fantasies. Openly discuss your feelings and ideas, even if it feels exciting or uncomfortable. Not everything has to be tackled immediately, but just take it step by step and talk about what you find arousing. By being open about your desires, you lay the foundation for a sensual connection, resulting in more thrilling and intimate experiences for both of you.

Pro-tip: start with questions like: “Did you ever want to try something new in bed?”, or “What do you think would be sexy to do together?” A good way to open the door to an exciting conversation!

2. Start subtly, but stimulating

If you’ve never tried sex toys before, it’s a good idea to start small, but this definitely doesn’t mean boring. A bullet vibrator is a sexy toy to start your adventure with. It’s small, powerful and perfect for clitoral stimulation during foreplay or sex. Its vibrations add extra sensations that make everything just that bit more thrilling.

Other sexy starters:

• Vibrating cock-ring: this provides extra stimulation for both, and strengthens his erection. An instant win-win!
• Soft handcuffs or blindfolds: add a little mystery and control with this simple, but hot additions. Nothing’s more ‘exciting’ than the unexpected!

3. Couple vibrators: double pleasure

For adventurous couples, the couple vibrator can be a real game-changer. This stylish vibrator offers numerous ways to experiment together. You can, for example, wear it during penetration, where it stimulates both her clitoris and G-spot, while he also enjoys its powerful vibrations. The result? More intense orgasms for both! The experience only gets more thrilling if you also play with different vibration modes and patterns.

Pro-tips: 

• Some vibrators can even be controlled remotely with an app. Imagine: you send subtle vibrations to your partner during a romantic dinner. The tension will immediately be palpable, even if you don’t touch each other. This kind of playful interaction can add an arousing, new dimension to your relationship.

• Make an adventure of discovery: watch erotica or porn for inspiration to get ideas about how other couples use sex toys and spark your fantasies.

4. Anal toys & strap-ons

If you’re ready to take things even further, it’s time to experiment with anal toys or even a strap-on. A small, smooth butt plug can add extra sensations during sex. Strap-ons offer new possibilities for role-play and reversal of the traditional dynamic, to make things a little different and more challenging.

Pro-tip: lubricant is your best friend, especially with anal toys. Choose a high-quality water-based lubricant to go with your toy(s).

5. Lubricant

You may think that lubricant is optional, but once you’ve tried it, you’ll never want to do without. Lube makes everything smoother and more sensual. Combine it with vibrators, dildos or cock rings for a sensational experience.

Choose your favourite: you’re good with a silky-soft water-based lube for silicone toys, or a long-lasting silicone-based lube for the rest.