Why sexting can strengthen (or ruin) your relationship

Sending suggestive or explicit messages and photos can be an exciting way to keep the spark alive in your relationship. But it can also lead to misconceptions, jealousy or even a breach of trust. 

More excitement through sexting

Sexting can be a powerful way to rekindle the passion in your relationship, especially if you can’t always be together in person. Sending naughty texts or racy photos can keep your partner thinking about you throughout the day, with increasing anticipation and excitement. This can lead to a more intimate bond and a stronger desire for each other when you are finally together again.

Strengthening of the emotional bond

Sexting does not only revolve around physical arousal; it can also help to strengthen your emotional bond. Being open about your desires and fantasies creates an atmosphere of trust and mutual understanding. Sharing your deepest sexual thoughts can create a sense of closeness, which is crucial in a healthy and satisfying relationship.

Improvement of sexual communication

Another benefit of sexting is that it helps you to practice sexual communication. By discussing through messages what arouses you, you get to know each other’s preferences, which can improve sex in real life. It can also serve as a platform to explore boundaries and try new ideas, without feeling the pressure to instantly put them into practice.

The pitfalls of sexting

Although sexting can have benefits, certain risks have to be taken into account too. Carelessness or a lack of mutual respect could lead to problems which can seriously damage your relationship.

Lack of mutual understanding

Sexting only works if both partners are fully on board and feel comfortable with what’s being shared. If one of you feels pressured to sext, this may lead to tension or even cause feelings of coercion. It’s important to communicate openly and ensure that sexting remains fun and satisfying for both of you, without it becoming an obligation.

Dangers of breach of trust

Sharing intimate photos and texts requires great trust in your partner. But what if that trust is violated? For example, if photos are shared with others without permission, this can lead to serious emotional damage and may even have legal consequences. It’s essential to make clear agreements about privacy and what happens with shared content.

Unintentional miscommunication

The tone or intention of a sext can easily be misinterpreted via text. What was meant as a harmless flirty text, can sometimes unintentionally come across as insulting or inappropriate. This can lead to misunderstandings, and arguments even, especially if you are already in a vulnerable phase of your relationship.

If you are both up for it, ensure that the exchange remains private and that you both express any insecurities or feelings of unease, sexting can certainly boost your relationship.