Planning a quickie: spontaneous sex in a busy life

With a busy life, it can sometimes be a challenge to make time for sex. But a satisfying sex life doesn’t always have to take hours. Planning a quickie can be a great way to keep the passion and intimacy alive in your relationship, even if your time is limited. Here are some tips to quickly and effectively plan a quickie and enjoy spontaneous sex, even with a busy schedule.

1. Make the most of unexpected moments

Sometimes it’s simply a matter of taking advantage of the moments that you run into each other. Whether you have a few minutes before heading out to an appointment, or while waiting for the kids to get in, short timeslots can be perfect for a quick, spontaneous sexual encounter. It takes a little creativity, but by taking advantage of these moments, you can maintain sexual intimacy together.

2. Plan strategically

Although a quickie can often be a spontaneous interaction, it helps to have a strategy. Think of the moments when you are mostly alone or you know your partner is also open to a quick sex session. You can send a little “sexting” message to build up tension and remind each other of the quickie ahead, as a way to prepare for it and fuel each other’s enthusiasm.

3. Keep the focus on fun

A quickie is not about the duration, but about the experience. So focus on what you both enjoy, even if you don’t have much time. This means you have to act fast and make do with what you have. A short but sincere and passionate sexual encounter can be just as satisfying as a longer session.

4. Make it exciting with variety

A quickie doesn’t always have to go the same way. Vary scenarios to keep things exciting. You can explore different locations in your house, try a new position, or play with pace and intensity. The goal is to keep things interesting, so that each quickie is a little different and exciting.

5. The right mindset

The right mindset is essential for a successful quickie. Both partners should be prepared to embrace the idea of a quick session and not consider it an ‘obligation’. Candor and a playful attitude can help to make the experience fun and satisfying. A quickie will be much more enjoyable if you are both enthusiastic and relaxed.

6. Create a romantic moment

Even a quickie could use a touch of romance. Try to create a short but intimate setting, by dimmed lights, some background music, or sharing a moment of touching and expression of love before you start. These little gestures can confirm your connection and make the experience more pleasurable for you both.