How do you keep your long-term relationship exciting?

Sparks often fly in a new relationship, but intimacy can fade over time. However, this is not necessarily a permanent thing! Here are some simple ways to rekindle the eroticism in your long-term relationship.

Rediscover fantasies

Even if you know each other through and through, what we find exciting may change over time. You can start a conversation about this and discover each other’s current fantasies – maybe you come up with something surprising that you want to try together. This doesn’t only bring excitement, but also deepens the trust in each other.

Experiment with place and time

Routine can have a dulling effect on eroticism. So why not try sex in a new spot at home, or at an unexpected time, like in the morning or even spontaneously in the afternoon. You can change the predictable atmosphere this way and experience the thrill of something new.

Seduce outside of the bedroom

Flirting doesn’t have to stop if you’ve been together for a long time. You can send suggestive messages, make intense eye contact, or touch each other subtly. Small temptations in the course of the day create anticipation and build up tension, even if they don’t directly lead to sex.

Invest in each other’s bodies

Being together for a long time doesn’t mean that there’s nothing new to discover anymore. You can try other touches, rhythms or sensual massages. That way, you rediscover each other’s sensitivities, creating a fresh, intimate experience.

Schedule time for intimacy

In a busy life with work, children and social obligations, sex can easily fade into the background. Consciously reserve time for the two of you, without distractions. A ‘date night’ or a spontaneous screen-free night out can be the beginning of some intimate time together.

Humor in the bedroom

Eroticism doesn’t always have to be serious. Laughing together over unexpected moments, such as a garment that won’t come off, takes away tension or insecurity. Humor makes you feel more free, making things more fun and relaxed.

Keep investing, even in a slump

If the passion has dwindled, don’t get discouraged. Each couple go through times where intimacy fades temporarily. It’s good to invest extra time in each other, without pressure. With patience and small gestures you can keep your connection strong, and, eventually, the passion will return.

With a little creativity and attention to each other’s needs, your bond can get stronger and more exciting. Long-term relationships have the potential to be more intense and more profound – if you stay open to discovering new things with each other.