How to make a sex bucket list with your partner

Sex is more than just the standard positions and foreplay – it’s an adventure that you can discover together. So why not make a sex bucket list for this year? A list with everything you want to try together. From simple desires to the most daring fantasies – this is the ultimate way to enrich your sex life and add a new, thrilling dimension to your relationship. But where to start?

1. Start with trust

Before you start fantasizing about your wilder ideas, ensure a foundation of trust. Start a conversation in which you both feel safe to share everything. Set the right mood, maybe with a glass of wine or during an intimate moment. It’s all about openness and honesty – no need to be ashamed of what you want to try.

2. Start with small, exciting goals

Start with things that make you curious, but that aren’t too far outside of your comfort zone. Maybe a new position, new clothes or a thrilling role play. These are perfect ways to experiment without immediately getting into extreme fantasies. The goal is to have more fun and discover new ways of intimacy.

3. Don’t be afraid to have big dreams

Of course, your bucket list doesn’t have to be about small things only. It’s exciting actually, to share those big dreams and fantasies too. Whether it’s a threesome, BDSM, or an exotic location – this is the time to speak up about things you normally wouldn’t share so easily. But respect each other’s boundaries. The bucket list is meant for exploration, so don’t put any pressure.

4. Be realistic, but keep things exciting

Some things on your list may need some time to execute – and that’s okay. The point is to work things out together and fulfill your desires step by step. If you align your goals with your schedule, you can realize them at the right time. The main thing is that you keep communicating openly about what you both want, en about what you’re not ready to try yet.

5. Make it visual and tangible

Write down your bucket list or make it visual. Whether you have a secret notebook, a shared digital list or even make a mood board – the idea is to turn it into a tangible reminder. So that when you look at the list together, you can feel the excitement and the desire again. Visualizing your shared adventures only makes them more exciting.

6. Keep things playful

A sex bucket list doesn’t have to be serious, or a list of obligations. Let it be a playful challenge instead. You could make a game of who first checks off a certain item on the list. This keeps the energy flowing and ensures that you continue to grow together trying new things. It’s all about the fun, curiosity and excitement.

7. Give each other space to evolve

What you put on your bucket list today, could change tomorrow. Sexuality is dynamic, just like you and your partner. Keep updating and expanding the list as you discover more. There may come a time you want to add something you’ve never even considered before. That flexibility only makes the process more exciting.

A sex bucket list is not just a list of things you want to try together, but also an opportunity to deepen and enrich your relationship. It’s not just about the physical experiences, but also about the intimacy that arises from dreaming, discovering and exploring together. So go for it, create that list, and make every experience an adventure.