Tips for women: what if your partner cannot get hard (once in a while)
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Tips for women: what if your partner cannot get hard (once in a while)

By Janna, 24.07.2023

Sometimes, out of the blue, we experience our partner having trouble getting or keeping an erection. This often leads to frustration, which in the moment really only makes it worse. It could happen to anyone, but what is the best way to deal with it when it does? We’ll give you tips so you can react in the best possible way if your partner unexpectedly stays flaccid, and you really wanted his rock-hard cock. 

Be honest

Open communication is crucial when dealing with erection problems. Create a safe and supportive atmosphere in which you can both talk freely about the challenges you experience. Ask questions, listen actively and be emphatic. By being open, you can team up to find solutions and reduce the pressure.

Avoid placing blame or pressure

Keep in mind that a flaccid cock is not ‘his fault’. It’s probably just as annoying for him as it is for you. There could be various physical, emotional or psychological causes. Try to hide your disappointment, which would only make things worse. If you don’t really know what to say, it’s probably better to say less than to keep rambling.

Explore other forms of intimacy

Intimacy goes beyond just sexual intercourse. There are countless ways to experience connection and fun without an erection. So you can explore other forms of intimacy, like cuddling, caressing, massaging or oral sex. It might be the perfect moment to let him spoil you. If he cannot get hard, he will probably experience less stress by focusing on you.

Encourage professional help

Erection problems can sometimes have a deeper cause that requires professional guidance. If your partner has trouble getting hard more often, you can encourage him to talk to a doctor or sex therapist. It’s not easy to take such a step, so make sure you support him in this. Your support and understanding are important in this process. Fortunately, erection problems can often be treated with good result.

Emphasize love and acceptance

Keep validating your love and acceptance to your partner, no matter the challenges you are dealing with. Having a flaccid member is a bummer, but certainly not the end of the world. Let him know that his worth does not depend on his ability to get an erection.

Teamwork makes the dream work

Erection problems are much more common than you’d think and can have all kinds of causes. It helps to talk about this with each other, and possibly with others, to normalize the topic. Make sure he knows that you find him sweet, fun and attractive, also if things don’t work out sometimes. By interacting and supporting each other, you can maintain a strong and loving relationship, no matter what challenges come your way.

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