Oral sex 2.0: how to perfect it
Oral Sex

Oral sex 2.0: how to perfect it

By Janna, 28.10.2024

Many couples consider oral sex an essential part of their sex lives. But even if you think you’re doing things right, there’re always room for improvement. Do you want to level up your skills and really bring your partner to ecstasy? With the right techniques, pace and some variation, you can create a sensational experience every time. Here are the most important tips for oral sex 2.0.

1. Build-up: it starts before you start

Oral sex is not just about the actual deed, but also about the build-up to it. Start with soft caresses, light kisses and breathing around the genitals without going at it right away. This creates anticipation and builds up tension. The longer you wait, the more intense the moment will feel when you actually start.

Pro-tip: slowly kiss the insides of the thighs and work your way to the genital parts. This creates a desire boost.

2. Communication is key

Everyone has their own preferences, and what feels great for one person, may not work so well for others. Ask your partner what they like and pay attention to their body language: breathing, moaning, or tensing of muscles are often clear signals that you’re on the right track.

Pro-tip: play with intensity and subtly check if they want less or more. An easy way to discover what works for you both.

3. Keep playing with techniques

Variation of techniques keeps the experience exciting and intense. Here are a few you can try:

  • Licking: alternate between slow, wide licks and faster, pointed movements.
  • Sucking: light sucking movements can be very stimulating, especially on the clit or glans.
  • Circling movements: let your tongue run soft circles around the most sensitive areas for tingling sensations.

Tip: don’t stick to the same technique too long, unless you notice that your partner is really enjoying it. Alternate to keep the thrill going.

4. Faster is not always better

Many people make the false assumption that faster is always better. But if you start slowly and gradually pick up the pace, you create a more intense experience. Faster movements can be arousing, but variation in pace and intensity makes it more satisfying.

Try this: start slow and alternate with fast movements. That way, you can keep things unpredictable and interesting.

5. Using your hands too: more sensations, more pleasure

Oral sex doesn’t just involve your mouth, as your hands can provide extra stimulation too. While using your mouth, you can put your hands to good use and caress the penis shaft or the vulva. This adds extra sensations and heightens pleasure.

Tip to use on a man: hold the base of the penis while you stimulate the glans with your mouth. This creates a sense of complete control.

Tip to use on a woman: use your fingers to gently caress the vulva or the perineum (situated between the vagina and anus) while your mouth focuses on the clit.

6. Don’t forget the body

It’s not only about the genitals. By caressing or kissing other erogenous zones, such as the stomach, thighs and nipples during oral sex, you can intensify the experience.

Bonus tip: while using your mouth, you can caress other parts of the body for a multi-sensory experience. Arousal to the max.

7. Confidence is sexy

Being confident about oral sex makes all the difference. Let go of your insecurities and be present in the moment. Enjoy what you’re doing and your partner’s reactions. Self-confidence radiates and creates a relaxed, pleasant experience for both of you.

A last note: it’s about pleasure and discovering what works for you both. Performing oral sex is an art, but also a process of communication and experimentation. It doesn’t always have to be perfect, as long as you both enjoy it and have a good time.

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