Learning to enjoy your own body

We are all born in a body. But somewhere along the way — between magazines, looks, gym halls and embarrassing sex education — we lose that natural relationship. What is it replaced by? Judgement. Comparison. Distance. Sometimes even shame. And yet, it’s exactly that body in which you live, love, long and feel. With which you breathe, laugh and, yes, climax too. Time to get reacquainted.

Enjoying ≠ being perfect

We’ve become so accustomed to the idea of having to ‘change’ first before loving ourselves. That we have to be slimmer, tighter, smoother, fitter, sexier. But enjoying your body has nothing to do with a before-and-after shot. It doesn’t start with a different body, but with a different perspective.

You don’t have to lose weight, recharge or tune into an app first. All you have to do is feel — without judgement. That’s the first step. Andy maybe the most important one.

Observe without criticism

When was the last time you really looked at your own body? Not to control or criticize anything, but simply… as a form of attention?

Get a mirror. Observe with curiosity instead of expectation. See the curves, the lines, the folds, the scars, the skin that lives. Maybe it feels uncomfortable at first. Maybe you see things you’d rather ignore. But every time you observe without judgement, your mildness grows. And mildness is the mother of pleasure.

Touching without a goal

We often only touch ourselves with a purpose: showering, getting dressed, masturbating. But what if you touch yourself without an end goal? Just to feel. To be present in your own body.

Stroke your arms, your stomach, your thighs. Take your time. Put your hand on your heart, your chest, your stomach. Not as a trick— but as a practice in tenderness. Because your body is not a project, it’s a place. A home.

(Re)discovering your own pleasure

You don’t have to play complicated sex games to enjoy your body. Start with your breath. With your skin. With what you like. Without a script.

Masturbate the way you want — without haste, without performance. Listen to what your body is asking. You may discover new sensations. Maybe you finally feel permission. Maybe you’ll just calm down. Everything counts. The outside world? Just let them talk.

Maybe you feel too much or too little sometimes. Too exposed, too hairy, too different from the standard. But that standard was never made for you. Let others keep their ideas. You only have to find yourself again. Your body is not too fat, too skinny, too old, too pale or too wild. It’s yours. And that automatically makes it beautiful.

Finally: learning to enjoy your body is not the final destination, it’s a process. You don’t have to be able to do it right away. It’s okay to doubt, to relapse, to start over again.

But if you give yourself a little more space each day, something beautiful will take shape. Not perfection — but pleasure. Not control — but connection. With yourself. In your body. In your own way.