Pros and cons of anal sex

Anal sex is a topic that often evokes mixed reactions, with pros and cons that are worth considering before giving it a try. Below, an outline of the different aspects to help you take a well-considered decision about this.

PROS

More intense orgasms 

One of the advantages women often mention about anal sex is the possibility of experiencing more intense orgasms. The anus has many nerve endings, which, for some women, leads to a deeper sense of pleasure compared to vaginal penetration. This can be especially beneficial for women who have difficulty climaxing through traditional sexual activity.

The kinky element 

For many people, the taboo element of anal sex adds an extra dimension of arousal. Breaking sexual taboos can be an erotic incentive and it can even be included in BDSM-scenes as part of a power change or dominance and submission.

Alternative option

Anal sex can be a suitable alternative for vaginal intercourse if vaginal sex is not possible, due to menstruation, a urinary tract infection (UTI), or vaginal soreness related to other causes. It allows couples to maintain intimacy without the risk of complications or discomfort.

No risk of pregnancy 

A main advantage to anal sex is that there is no risk of pregnancy. For couples who are looking for alternatives to birth control or who worry about pregnancy, anal sex can be a safe and satisfying option.

CONS

Demands preparation 

One of the biggest disadvantages of anal sex is that it requires preparation. Both physical and mental preparation are essential to stay comfortable and clean during anal contact. The use lubricant is necessary and some even want to clean the rectum beforehand. Being unprepared can lead to discomfort, or even to painful experiences and to prevent infections it is safer to use a condom.

Possible obsession 

Some partners have an obsession with anal sex, which can put pressure on those who are not sure if they want to give it a try. This pressure can negatively impact the sexual experience and lead to tension in the relationship if wishes and boundaries are not respected.

Possible pain 

For some people, anal sex can cause discomfort or pain, especially if it’s not done properly. It’s crucial to take things slow and be careful, with plenty of lubricant and good communication between partners. If the anus isn’t relaxed enough or if penetration is done too quickly or too roughly, it can be rather painful.

Personal preference 

Anal sex is very personal and what is pleasurable for one person can be unpleasant for another. So it’s good to discuss your boundaries, wishes and levels of comfort with your partner. If you don’t feel comfortable with having anal sex, that’s completely acceptable, and there are numerous other ways to explore and experience sexual intimacy together.