Lubricant is sexy (and other things we would have liked to know before)

Lubricant. Just the word sounds a little clinical, right? As if it’s something for “when things don’t automatically work.” But you can forget about that idea immediately, just throw it in the trash. Because lube is not a remedy, but an upgrade. And the same goes for plenty of other ‘aids’ in bed. 

Lubricant is not a sign of ‘lack, but of luxury

There are many misconceptions about lubricant:

• That you only need it if you are not wet enough. 
• That it’s something to be a little ashamed of. 
• That you only use it during anal sex or vaginal dryness.

But the truth?

• More sliding, less friction. 
• More sensation, less discomfort. 
• More daring to experiment (think: longer, rougher or more gentle). 

A little lube with oral sex? Yes please.
With sex toys? Essential.
With fingering or a handjob? Works wonders. 

What we would have liked to know before

1. Aids are not a help line.
   They improve what’s good already. Like candlelight with dinner. 
2. A toy is not a replacement, but an addition.
   A vibrator is not a competitor to your partner, but a colleague.
3. Sex can be both sexy and practical.
   Things like lubricant, condoms or a cushion under your pelvis can literally elevate things to a higher level. 
4. What’s in your night stand says nothing about what you ‘need’, but everything about what you deserve.
   Comfort, pleasure, variation. You’re worth all that. 

Lubricant in a relationship: dare to ask

Many women find it hard to introduce new things out of shame or fear of ‘asking for too much.’ But the truth is, smart tools only make sex more free, fun and intimate. And it’s only sexy if you know what you like and share this with your bed partner. 

Sexy is smart too

We’re all acting like things should come naturally. The right tools will only make for a better sex life. And lubricant? Isn’t secondary. It’s a game changer. So lube things up knowing: this is mature, confident and conscious sexuality.