Fellatio: thoughts you’ve probably had during a blowjob

Exciting sex play for some, a matter of give and take for others. Sometimes, our thoughts just wander involuntarily. Even in the moment, your mind can wander to the most unexpected, funny or even practical things. Do you recognize the following thoughts that you secretly may have had during a blowjob? 

When can I stop?

Let’s be honest, we’ve probably all had this thought once or twice. Sometimes it feels as if time’s standing still and you wonder: when will this be done? Maybe that hookup is not that exciting as you thought, or your mind’s just wandering. And a blowjob can be pretty tiring too. And then you might think: How long will I have to keep this up? You try to stay in the moment, but sometimes you just hope that his climax is close. 

Oh no, not my hair

You know how it is: you’ve just had your locks perfectly styled, and then he decides to enthusiastically run his hands through your hair. You instantly feel that it looks as if you’ve just rolled out of bed now. All that trouble for nothing. As you continue blowing him, you think: I just had so much volume, what the hell?! But hey, maybe it’s not as dramatic as you think. And you know? He probably doesn’t even realize. So, let it go, enjoy the moment, and find comfort in the idea that messy hair is totally sexy too. Right?

What time does my train leave?

You’ve been at it for a while, and suddenly you’re distracted. “What time does my train leave again? Will I still have time to do some shopping after this? What’s for dinner tonight? Did I actually feed the cat? Your mind wanders to the most practical matters, as if it’s the perfect time for a mental to-do list. And maybe you don’t even notice until he suddenly gives you a questioning look that reads: “Everything okay down there?” You nod quickly, as if you’re totally into it, but secretly you’re thinking that you will have to get some bread and milk later on. Oh well, at least women are good at multitasking.

To swallow or not to swallow?

Ah, here it comes, the eternal question of doubt. The moment you know that the decision is all yours. You only have a few seconds to make up your mind, but it feels like an eternity. Am I going for it? Or not? Maybe it depends on how you feel, or on what the evening was like. On the one hand you may want to stay in control, but on the other hand, you want to please your partner and make the moment complete. Whatever you choose, there’s no right or wrong. What matters is what feels right for you, and your partner will undoubtedly respect your choice.

Yes, he moans. I’m so good at this!

While in action, you hear it. That one confirmation you sometimes wait for: a groan. I’m on a roll here, you think. It’s that subtle ego boost that gives you just that bit of extra energy. Suddenly, you’re no longer preoccupied with the cramp in your jaws, or the state of your hair, because hey, you’re obviously great at this. Maybe you even take it up a notch, because of course his moaning is invigorating.

Just know that all things going through your head are completing normal. Really, you’re not the only one catching yourself wandering. Try to clear your head every now and then, put your worries aside and really enjoy the moment. Because in the end it’s all about fun, connection and letting yourself go!