Financial Domination: An Introduction
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Financial Domination: An Introduction

By Emmeline Peaches, 25.02.2021

Power – it comes in many forms but, mostly, it’s about control.

An adult baby might relinquish control of responsibility. A spanking sub might put their experience of pain in someone else’s hands. A pay pig lets go of their wallet.

“A Pay What?”

‘Pay Pig’ is one of the terms used for a submissive in the financial domination fetish. 

Financial domination is a form of domination which involves a financial submissive (typically male) offering money or ‘tribute’ to their dominant (typically female).

Unlike some sexual exchanges, where money is exchanged for action, in financial domination the money exchange is the action. Financial subs enjoy the act of giving over either part or all of their financial freedom to their FinDom or buying them the items that they demand.

The View from the Dominant

Financial Dominants are often bold, strong, and absolutely shameless with their intentions. There tends to be a strong degree of verbal (or text-based) humiliation surrounding Financial Domination. FinDoms are confident in their deserving of the funds or tribute that they demand from their subs and set clear boundaries about what they expect and how they’re should receive it. 

For some, this may be a bit too strong in terms of sexual pursuits. For others it is a breath of fresh air. 

The benefit of the firm approach that FinDoms regularly take is that Subs will always know the nature of their relationship with the FinDom. There is no grey area when a FinDom says “I deserve to be rich and you’re going to surrender your funds to give me what is mine”.

Many FinDoms will often advertise through online fetish sites or specific hashtags on social media sites and almost all financial domination will take place online. There is typically no sex involved – a FinDom cannot be purchased. It is a sub’s purpose in life to be financially owned by the FinDom, not the other way around. Paying for sex muddies the water. 

If you are considering financial domination know that it’s typically good etiquette to let individual’s approach you and to make it clear what your terms of conversation are. 

For example, some FinDoms will not entertain subs unless they are willing to make an immediate tribute. This keeps the exchange focused on the heart of the fetish – money – and makes sure that FinDoms invest all their time in gratifying those who are serious about becoming a financial submissive. 

It is also good etiquette, behind the scenes, to make sure that any long-term subs can afford to participate in their fetish. The idea of financial domination is to “ruin” a person financially, but the line between fantasy and reality should be considered.

Financial domination is a fetish that will, ultimately, have a potentially strong monetary impact on an individual. No FinDom is responsible for how far a sub chooses to take their desires, but it is good practice to make sure that a sub is aware of their basic needs and expenses and make it clear that their choice to submit to a FinDom is just that – their choice. Not many people want to see an individual lose everything due to their fetish, so it pays to be mindful about this.

The View from the Financial Submissive

Financial submission can offer subs a sense of release in life. A FinDom is firm, demanding, and authoritative. A sub’s role is simply to obey without question and to fulfil, in every way, their FinDom’s desires.

Humiliation is also a large part of financial domination and can be a rush when you are on the receiving end. For those who have a lot of power, responsibility, or ego in daily life, it is thrilling to suddenly be on the backfoot and to have all pretence of power and control released. 

If you are interested in being a financial sub then it’s important to look at what FinDoms are available and to find one that has the mannerisms and terms that appeal to you. 

Terms are important: Some FinDoms will expect daily tributes. Some will have wishlists on Amazon where you will be expected to make purchases. Some may demand funds as an when it pleases them (and it’s your job to please them). 

Find a FinDom that is fully compatible with you and your financial capabilities. If you are aiming to conceal your investments in pleasure and surrender then it is also important to consider how money is exchanged and think about who has access to look at your accounts. 

FinDoms will typically post quite regularly on their chosen platform but don’t expect responses or conversations at your beck and call – that is not the nature of your relationship. If you are considering financial domination know that you are not owed anything – you are, in fact, paying off your debt by giving your chosen FinDom the tribute you were always meant to bestow upon them. 

So, Is Financial Domination for You?

Unlike many fetishes, financial domination requires a careful consideration to your financial means, as long as your commitment to a rather intense form of sexual roleplay and submission.

If you want to become a FinDom then you will likely be spending a fair amount of time investing in your profile, making sure you hold your boundaries firm, and managing the tributes of your subs.

If you want to become a sub then you’d better have a lot of money in your account, because all of it will technically belong to your FinDom and the release of your assets is done on your FinDom’s terms, not yours.

It may seem extreme, and it is, but some people in life thrive on extreme exchanges of power. Are you one of them? Only you can make that decision.

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