5 Ways for Couples to Reconnect

5 Ways for Couples to Reconnect

By Rebecca, 09.09.2019

Life sometimes just gets in the way and leaves us a little disconnected from the important people in our lives. If that’s the case, it is crucial to spend some time and effort reconnecting with your partner. Sometimes it is just a few days that feel off, but sometimes it can drag on for weeks or months, leaving people feeling even more disconnected than ever before.

Don’t worry though, not all is lost! There are definitely ways for couples to reconnect. Here are 5 of them:

#1. Create Your Own Little Routine

Find something nice to do that only involves the two of you. It can be for 10 minutes or an hour, as long as you carve out a special time for the two of you to chat (or sit in silence together).

You can turn off your phones and the television 10 minutes before bed and spend that time being present with each other. You can always make sure to have your morning coffee together or walk to the bus together or prepare dinner together. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it is regularly in your schedule.

Make it a priority, no matter what else is going on. 

#2. Focus on Touch

Physical intimacy is so important and it is possible you stopped getting close to each other without realizing it. If you always sit on opposite ends of the couch, are your bodies touching? If you have a kid sleeping in between you every night, are you able to cuddle each other? If you’re busy when your partner comes home from work, are you kissing them hello?

Touching each other, in a caring but not sexual manner, is important to maintain a connection between people. Hold hands, cuddle on the couch, take a bath together, give them a back rub, or any other type of touch that feels right for you.

Make sure you are physically connecting with your partner every single day.

#3. Add Positivity To Your Life

Studies have shown that satisfied married couples have five positive interactions to every one negative interaction. This shows the importance of keeping it as positive as possible! Instead of putting each other down or commenting on what is going wrong in the home, think about what is going well and how you can lift each other up.

Even simple positive acknowledgements of achievement or household effort can go a long way. If you try to have a more positive outlook, the positive words and feelings should follow. 

#4. Laugh Together

Humour is so important in a relationship, but boring routine and stressful life situations can squash it pretty easily.

While inside jokes are always helpful, you don’t necessarily have to make each other laugh. Instead, you can go out to see a comedy show or a funny movie, or spend time with friends that constantly have you cackling with laughter.

Laughing together is a great way to rejuvenate some stale connections.

#5. Don’t Keep Score

There is one particularly bad habit that can lead to couples feeling disconnected from each other, and that is keeping score of errands and chores. It is normal for people to prefer certain chores or to do differently styles of errands. If you start counting how often your partner helps out around the house versus how often you clean up, it can easily lead to frustration and resentment.

Of course, it is important to have conversations about the mundane stuff so that everyone helps out around the house. If you do find your partner intensely slacking, it is worth a conversation but it isn’t healthy to keep score. However, keeping tabs on each other only leads to negativity.

If you find yourself keeping tabs, it might be time to re-evaluate the system. Have an open conversation about your concerns, and come to a compromise that works for everyone. Then, stop keeping score! It will be a huge relief that can lead to less disconnection.

A good tip to reconnect is to let go of (or figure out) the problems that are causing you to disconnect in the first place.

Have any other tips you want to share with us about how to reconnect with a partner? Let us know over on Twitter and join the conversation!

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