Does the use of sex toys ruin your sex life?

It’s one of the most frequently asked questions in the world of modern sex: will I be ruined if I use my vibrator too often? In a time where toys have become increasingly powerful and technology is coming at us from every which way, concerns are growing too. We fear that our own touch, or that of our partner, won’t be enough. But what’s the deal here? Does a toy make your sex life lazy or is it actually the ultimate enrichment?

The myth of insensitivity

Let’s get straight to the point: you can’t damage your clitoris with a vibrator. The fear of your nerve endings dying or becoming permanently numb is a myth. Though it’s true that your brain and body can get used to specific, intense stimulation. If you climax within two minutes on the highest setting of your air-pressure toy on a daily basis, your partner’s hand or tongue can feel a bit tame afterwards. But we call this habituation, not permanent damage.

Toys as training tools

Instead of a considering them a threat, it’s better to view toys as a manual to your own body. With help of a toy, many women actually discover what they really enjoy, where they want to be stimulated and what rhythm works for them. Useful knowledge that you can take into the bedroom, with your partner. See it as an extra instrument in your orchestra: sometimes you play a solo on the piano (the toy), other times you enjoy the entire symphony together.

The partner paradox

A major fear of many men is that they can’t beat a battery that never gets tired. In reality? Couples who integrate toys into their sex life, often have more sex actually. It takes the pressure off. A toy can help a woman get aroused faster or more intensely, lowering the threshold to the rest of the action. It doesn’t replace the partner, but is actually a team mate helping to reach the end goal.

Tips for a healthy balance

 Do you want the best of both worlds? Then go by these three simple rules:

1. Vary with intensity. Don’t always use your toy on the highest setting. Teach your body to enjoy gentle vibrations and a slow build-up again.
2. Include the toy together. Use it as part of foreplay with your partner instead of just a quick fix for yourself.
3. Take a break every now and then. Just like a digital detox, a week without batteries can help you become more sensitive to subtle skin touch again.

Conclusion?

Toys don’t ruin but enrich your sex life. As long as you use them as additions instead of an escape route, they’re the best friends you could wish for.