12 tips for more confidence in bed

Confidence in bed isn’t about perfect positions, perfect bodies, or perfect sounds. It’s about daring to enjoy without your mind getting in the way. With these twelve down-to-earth, practical tips, you’ll feel freer, more confident, and much more in the moment.

1. Get to know your own body

The better you know what you like, the easier it will be to share that with someone else. Solo discovery gives you confidence.

2. Wear something that makes you feel attractive

Not for the other person, but for yourself. What you wear, determines how you move and how free you feel.

3. Stop performing

Sex isn’t a show. Nobody’s judging you. Fun and enthusiasm are always hotter than perfection.

4. Say what you want

A simple sentence makes a world of difference. Come here. I want you. Or: lie down. Directness gives you immediate strength.

5. Pay less attention to how you look

You think about your stomach, breasts or legs, the other person usually just thinks “this feels good”. Nobody but you focuses on your insecurities.

6. Act confident

Don’t fake orgasms, fake confidence. A straight back, a steady touch and with a bit of courage, your body and mind will instantly cooperate.

7. Let the other do the work

You don’t have to control everything. Your confidence actually grows when you feel someone wants you and makes an effort for you.

8. Don’t compare yourself to anyone

Not with exes, not with social media, not with friends. Everyone has their own manual. Focus on your pleasure, not on outside expectations.

9. Take the pressure off climaxing

As soon as you see it as mandatory end goal, it becomes harder. Think of it as an incentive, instead of a must. You’ll feel more free that way.

10. Watch porn together

Porn doesn’t have to make you insecure. It can actually inspire you. Seeing someone completely let loose helps you let go of your inhibitions. Watching together works extra well, because your arousal is in the moment. On DUSK, you’ll find porna that’s perfect for couples to watch. 

11.Take the right people to bed

Confidence is easier with someone who finds you attractive and shows it. The best sex happens with people who make you feel good.

12. Try morning sex

If you often feel bloated or heavy in the evening, morning sex can feel much better. Your stomach feels calmer and you often don’t feel so annoyingly full yet. Which just makes it easier to care less about how you look. Your body’s already good the way it is, but sometimes one moment just feels more comfortable than another.