Your first toy: how do you choose one that really suits you?

Yes, you are ready for your first sex toy. Exciting! Maybe you’ve already been scrolling endlessly on websites with hundreds of vibrators, clitoral suckers, dildo’s, cock rings, bullets, plugs… help! 

Good news, you don’t have to know everything to start. Better yet, it’s not about what everyone else uses, but about what you like. And that can be explorative and totally at your pace. 

Why a toy?

• To get to know yourself better.
• For extra stimulation during sex or masturbation.
• Just because you feel like something new.
• Because you are curious.

You don’t need a reason. Curiosity is enough. 

What do you like already?

Before choosing a toy, these simple questions can help you on your way:

1. Are you more into clitoral stimulation or vaginal penetration?
   Spoiler: 70 to 80% of women come mainly or solely through clitoral stimulation. 
2. Do you want a toy for solo pleasure or together with a partner?
   Some toys are ideal to use together.
3. Do you like soft and subtle or intense and focused?
   This determines whether it’s better to start with something like a bullet vibrator or a toy with suction, like the famous satisfyer. 

First toy? Choose from these categories:

Bullet vibrator:

Small, discreet and often quite affordable. Perfect for clitoral stimulation and beginners who are looking for something powerful without feeling intimidated. 

Air pressure stimulator:

Stimulates the clitoris without direct contact, with pulsating air waves. A favorite of many women.

Dildo or G-spot stimulator 

No vibration, but shape and pressure. Can be very nice if you like penetration, but want to keep control over depth and pace. 

Duo toy:

There are toys you can wear during penetration, so you and your partner are both stimulated. Something less basic but super fun to discover together, if you feel at ease with each other.

Tips for your first time

• Always use (water-based) lubricant, which feels much more comfortable and can prevent irritation. 
• Check if the toy is rechargeable, so you don’t have to buy or replace batteries.
• Choose something made of silicone (safe and soft). And buy from a reliable shop, so not from cheap shops like AliExpress or Temu.

And then: cleaning

Always clean your toy before and after use. Rinsing it with warm water and mild soap is usually enough. Or buy a toy-cleaner. Store your toy dry, in a bag. It is a luxury item, and you can enjoy it for years this way.

Your pleasure, your rules

There is no right or wrong toy, it’s all about what suits you. Maybe you will get hooked on air pressure stimulation, or maybe you prefer to keep it subtle. Everything is fine, as long as you enjoy it!