Erotic roleplay for newbies

You don’t have to deliver Oscar-worthy acting to enjoy roleplay. Far from it: the best erotic scenes arise when you keep things simple. It’s not about theatre, but about excitement, power, surrender, or control. Oh, and the most important thing: can you both let go of shame or discomfort for a while? Because that’s where it all starts. You don’t have to write a script. You don’t need a latex suit or police cap. What you do need, is a little imagination. And a willingness to play. To let go of who you ‘usually’ are in bed, and to discover who you could be as well.

The easiest way to start? 

Choose a dynamic. Don’t think outfits, but roles. Do you want to be dominant or submissive? Do you want to conquer or be seduced? Be strict or shy? Maybe you come up with a scenario where you’re not allowed to do a certain thing and eventually it does happen. Or where you must do something you are hesitant about. Excitement comes with contrast.

Agree on your intention beforehand

Not all the details need to be written out, but it is good to know: who starts? Who leads? Is there a safe word? And what is absolutely off-limits? Roleplay works best when you know that it’s safe to get lost in the story.

Language is your greatest weapon. A different tone of voice, a different use of words, even a new name can be enough to tilt the atmosphere. Whisper commands. Ask questions. Let silences fall. The power isn’t in how much you say, but how you say it.

Location can also play a role

Don’t play on the bed, but at the table. On the couch. On a chair. When things are slightly different from your standard setting, it helps to get into your role. And yes, a subtle accessory also helps: a necktie, panty hose, glasses, a blouse unbuttoned till just below your breasts. No full costume, but suggestion. And that’s often even more thrilling.

Don’t expect everything to run smoothly. Maybe you’ll laugh. Maybe it even feels awkward. That’s all part of it. Just make it part of your play. You can make mistakes, start again, fast-forward a scene, or try something completely different.

Roleplay can be just that little push you needed to make sex exciting again. It makes your body feel different, your imagination run wilder, and shows your partner in a different light. And sometimes that’s exactly what you need to get out of your head and immerse deeply into your role.