Truths about a threesome
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Truths about a threesome

By Janna, 02.01.2023

Have you been dreaming about an exciting threesome for ages? You’re not the only one. Sex with three people is high on the list of many people’s sex fantasies. Are you up for having sex with a plus one? Come prepared! 

It’s not as smooth as in porno

… or like in movies. A threesome often is a bit of a messy sex party. An extra person makes it super exciting, but the choreography can sometimes feel a bit awkward. It doesn’t run as smoothly as a porn video. Believe it or not, everything in a porno is scripted and choreographed down to the last detail. With a new person in bed, you always have to get used to each other. You are not attuned to each other yet. No worries, all three of you know this.

Discomfort is part of it

In a threesome, suddenly extra body parts are involved. They’re almost literally flying around and that might take some getting used to. You crawl over each other and that doesn’t always happen without a struggle – literally. Not to mention the highs … But hey, you laugh about it and keep going. It’s just part of the game.

Positions are more complicated than you think

In porn everything seems to be so easy-peasy. The couple just moves effortlessly from one position to the next. Without even saying a word to each other. Yes logical, of course. Porn actors work with takes, scripts and a director. In real life, things run a little less smoothly. Well, you can’t read each other’s minds. But you can get some inspiration from porna videos with threesomes. And another golden tip: agree beforehand about what you think would be fun to try and just go with the flow.

You always have something to do

Of course you don’t want to exclude anyone in a threesome. This means you’re constantly making sure everyone is being pleased. So you always have your hands, and your ‘openings’, full. Everything with consent, naturally (make sure you cover this beforehand). 

Jealousy is a thing

Especially with couples who invite a plus one in the bedroom, jealousy can occur. On paper, a threesome seems exciting and thrilling, but if you see your partner messing around with someone else jealousy can rear its head. That’s why it’s important to make clear agreements about this. It’s best to choose someone you don’t know as third partner. Someone you won’t likely run into again. So absolutely no best friends! And if you know that you or your partner are very jealous… then you better skip a threesome. Never mind, there are plenty of other exciting things you can do. 

Be safe

Of course you know that safe sex is important. Especially with a threesome if you all haven’t been tested. If you use a condom, you have to replace it when you change sex partners. In the heat of the moment, people tend to forget about this. But this is important because the chance of an STD in a threesome is twice as high as you keep switching between persons and actions. Naturally, the best thing is to all take an STD test beforehand. That way, you can enjoy yourselves without worrying about it.

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