Coming too fast? This is how he lasts longer

Coming too soon. It happens. And more often than you think. One second you’re moaning with arousal, and the next it’s … done. Literally. And where you may still think: “We’ve only just started”, your body thinks: “Thank you, that’s it.” Frustrating? Sometimes. But embarrassing or problematic? It doesn’t have to be.

What you definitely shouldn’t do? Worry about it. Or punish him with a sigh or a look. Premature ejaculation usually has little to do with lust or love, and everything with tension, stress and timing. Luckily, there are ways to regain some control. Without pills, ointments or vague tantric workshops. Just: down-to-earth, smart tips that can really improve your sex life.

1. Build less and release more often.

If a man hasn’t had sex or any orgasms for days, things build up. Literally. The tension is high, the body is sensitive, the head full of expectation. And that can cause it to be over within a minute. So let him come more often, solo. One to three times a week can already make a difference. It takes the greatest ‘pressure’ off, making sex a less explosive release and a more shared experience.

2. Cleverly planning masturbation before the moment.

Do you really want it to last longer? Ejaculating a few hours in advance is a good idea. Yes, that’s right. Masturbation as warm-up. Many men experience that the second round feels calmer, deeper and lasts longer. And honestly: it makes it more exciting too. Because how horny are you if you can’t keep your hands off each other even after that first climax?

3. Learn to read his body, and vice versa. 

Many men who come quickly are just as surprised by it as their bed partner. Help him learn to read himself. When does the arousal build? When does he feel that he almost can’t hold it anymore? If you learn to sense that moment, you can manage it together. Feel it out. Pause. And continue again. Exciting, playful and effective.

4. Breaks aren’t boring, but sexy.

Sex doesn’t have to be a roller-coaster without breaks. Stop halfway. Change positions. Stroke each other. Whisper. Let things cool down a little, and then stir them back up. Alternate pace or rhythm every few minutes. That keeps his arousal containable and your connection more intense.

5. Lube is your best friend

More lube = less friction = a little less stimulation. And so: more stamina. Think of abundance. Make it slippery, smooth and soft. Bonus: it just feels better for both of you.

6. Use that condom wisely

Many men say that they feel less with a condom. That’s a bonus in this case. The rubber dulls just enough stimulation to last longer without compromising pleasure. And you do it safe too. Win-win.

7. Play with a cock ring

A cock ring slows down blood flow and keeps erections harder and longer. It can give just that bit of extra control. Mind: never wear it longer than 30 minutes and always check and communicate what feels good. But for many it’s a simple way to prolong play.

Sex isn’t about minutes but about moments. Whether he climaxes after five or fifteen minutes: as long as you share contact, pleasure and play, you’re good. And sometimes a little ‘too fast’ is simply the start of something very, very satisfying.