Advanced handwork: stimulating techniques to surprise him

Let’s get straight to the point: we all know the classic hand movements by now. And of course there’s nothing wrong with the standard up-and-down method, but a little variation in your handwork can make a world of difference to his experience. The beauty of your hands is that they give you much more control over pressure, pace and texture than with any other form of sex. Let’s take your skills to the next level with these three techniques.

Lubricant is crucial

Before we get to the techniques, there’s one golden rule: use lube. Many think that lubricant is only necessary when dry, but with handwork it’s an essential ingredient for pleasure. It reduces friction and ensures a smoother, more natural sensation that comes much closer to actual penetration. Go for a thicker silicone-based variant for a long-lasting effect, or a convenient water-based variant that rinses off easily.

The twist 

Most people only make a vertical movement, but by adding a twisting motion you stimulate the nerve endings in a completely new way. While moving your hand upwards, rotate your wrist a quarter turn like turning a doorknob. This changes the way the skin of the shaft slides along the glans. You can vary the direction of the twist for a surprise effect.

The ring grip 

The glans is the most sensitive part, but the spot just below the rim is often overlooked. Use your thumb and index finger to form a tight ring. Instead of gripping the whole shaft, with this firm grip you focus only on the top inch. By making short, quick, pulsating movements here, you rapidly build up tension.

The switcheroo

Your hands have different textures. Your palms are softer, while your fingertips have more grip and precision. Use one hand for the basic movement at the bottom of the shaft and use the fingertips of your other hand to stimulate the glans and frenulum (the sensitive patch of skin at the bottom). By making your hands work at different speeds, his brain gets positively confused.

Bonus tip: don’t forget the balls. While one hand does the hard work, you can use your other hand to gently massage his testicles or gently press on the base. This increases blood flow and often makes his orgasm more intense.

Handwork never has to be boring. By playing with your grip, a little extra lube, and the right twist, you turn a simple gesture into an unforgettable experience.