Masturbating together: even more intimate (and hotter) than you think

For many people, masturbating still feels like something you mostly do alone. A moment for yourself, door closed, lights out, and… action. But masturbating together is something completely different. It’s more direct, honest, exciting, and it can be much more arousing than standard sex. 

The best thing about masturbating together is that you don’t have to guess what the other person likes. You see it. Real-time. No hints, no guesswork, no “would this be good?” You look their way and it’s all going on right there. The way someone touches themselves probably tells you more than any conversation could.

And then there’s the real advantage: the live effect. Essentially, masturbating together provides you with your own private performance. No video, no filmed act, but a live show right there next to you. All you have to do is look to see exactly how they are touching themselves, at what pace, with what intensity. It’s arousing because it’s real, close, and right in front of you. And the best part, you see how much they enjoy it. 

Sometimes it even feels more exciting than penetration, because there are no expectations. You don’t have to switch, you don’t have to lead or follow. You touch yourself as you normally would, but with an extra layer of tension because someone is watching. And that makes it all the more intense. You’re both participant and spectator. That double perspective creates a thrill you’ll only get this way.

It also works surprisingly well at times when you don’t feel like a lot of action, but you do want a bit of excitement. You don’t always have to be in the mood for a full-blown sex adventure. Sometimes you just want to be close, look and feel a little, slowly letting that energy build. That’s when masturbating together is just the thing: intimate, light, sexy, without the fuss.

Another advantage: you quickly learn what the other person really enjoys. You might see things you wouldn’t normally think of. Maybe they move faster than you’d expected, or much slower. Maybe they touch a spot you’d never have chosen yourself. Those observations can be useful in your future sex sessions, without even having to discuss them. It’s basically the most natural form of sex education between two people.

The best part is that you stay in control. You don’t have to wait for the other person, you don’t have to coordinate anything, you don’t have to fake anything. You just follow your own rhythm and that makes it both relaxing and hot. And if you end up climaxing at the same time, it often feels like a bonus. Although it wasn’t the goal, it might just happen because you were totally in the vibe together.

And then there’s the holy grail, the icing on the cake: climaxing at the same time. Because as you see the other person getting close, see how their breath quickens and their body tenses, it automatically affects your own pace. You go faster, with more intensity, sinking deeper into your own feelings. And that’s exactly when you might just end up going over that edge simultaneously.