Sexting: hét voorspel anno 2025

Why sultry words on WhatsApp can make all the difference and how to keep things exciting without cringe. 

In a world where we spend more time on our phone than with our partner (ouch…), it’s no surprise that sexting has become a serious form of foreplay. But there’s a thin line between exciting and awkward. How do you keep sexting sexy, stylish and, above all, exciting? And what are the smart hacks and must-knows of 2025?

What is sexting exactly?

For those unfamiliar with the term, sexting is the digital exchange of erotic or sexual messages, photos or fantasies. It can be flirtatious, suggestive, explicit or poetic. And yes, it can be more than just a nude pic with ‘thinking of you’. Although that’s fine, of course. 

Why sexting works as foreplay:

1. You build anticipation before actual physical contact. 
2. You learn what turns you and the other person on. 
3. It gives you control and space to experiment.

But how do you avoid cringe?

Sexting is an art form, and here are the golden rules:

Do:

• Start subtly. A suggestive comment is often more exciting than a direct one. 
• Use details. ‘I was imagining your hand on my butt, in the shower just now’ does more than ‘I am horny’.
• Ask questions. ‘What would you do if you were lying next to me now?’ keeps it playful and open.

Don’t:

• Avoid clichés like ‘baby’ (unless that’s your vibe).
• Don’t use standard lines that you hear in porn. You are a person, not a script. 
• Don’t rush things, let it build up.

Sexting inspiration for beginners

Need some inspiration? Don’t worry, we got you!

• Slightly suggestive: ‘I was just thinking about last night. My body’s still reacting.’
• Playful: ‘Suppose you have just 5 minutes with me? What would you do?’
• Direct but stylish: ‘I’m fantasizing about your hands on my body while wearing nothing but your favorite lingerie set.’
• With humor: ‘I’m not wearing my bra and I want you to be the first to know it.’

Sexting in 2025: these are the apps you want to know about

Sexting is smarter, more discrete and more exciting than ever. Privacy plays an increasingly important role, and luckily there are plenty of apps that cleverly respond to this. These are the handiest tools for sexting without prying eyes.

Snapchat
Old-fashioned? No way. Snapchat remains a classic for naughty snaps that disappear automatically. You can see if someone tries to make a screenshot and with private stories or secret friend lists you keep the rest of the world out. Ideal for flirty pics, secret videos or a late night voice message.

Signal
Because of all the privacy concerns with other apps (thanks Elon Musk) Signal is on the rise. And it makes sense: it’s safe, clean and you determine how fast your messages disappear. Ideal for a traceless sexy exchange.

Telegram (with self-destruct timer) Convenient for those who like a little mystery. You control how long a photo or message stays visible and see if someone tries to make a screenshot.

Sexting is the modern foreplay that no one teaches you, that can make your relationship, flirt, or fling so much more exciting. It’s not about perfect sentences or spicy pics, but about connection, fantasy and curiosity. Just be yourself, your sexy self.