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You’re naked in bed, your partner on top, finding the right rhythm together. Everything feels good – his hands, your hips, your breathing. But then you look to the side, to the mirror on the wall. And suddenly you see yourself. See you both. The movement. Your bodies. The lust. Which only kicks in a little faster. That’s the magic of mirror sex. And it’s much more than just a visual trick.

Why mirror sex is so arousing

Mirror sex is about seeing what you usually only feel. You’re not just watching your partner, but also the effect you have on them – and vice versa. You become both spectator and lead actor in your own erotic movie. And that activates parts of your brain that have to do with desire, power, and validation.

It creates a sizzling mix of:

• Narcissism (you see how sexy you look in that moment),
• Voyeurism (you’re watching it like an outsider),
• and Exhibitionism (you see yourself being caught, but in a safe way).
  

The psychology behind mirror sex

What makes it so exciting is partly psychological: mirror sex takes you out of your head and fully brings you in the moment. You see sweat shining on your back, the interaction of your bodies, the way your breasts move, his eyes taking you in.

And seeing yourself in surrender? That can give you a huge confidence boost.

Mirror sex tips

Pick a mirror in the right spot
A mirror next to or above the bed is ideal. Don’t have one? Use a full-length mirror, or set your phone on mirror mode.

Start with foreplay in front of the mirror
Slowly undress each other. Stroke, lick, whisper in each other’s ear. Watch your partner watching you – or how you react when their hand touches your thigh.

Positions that work well with mirror sex

• Doggy in front of the mirror – You on hands and knees, your partner behind you. Eye contact through the mirror.
• Missionary with the mirror next to the bed – You lie on your side or back, admiring him from the side.
• On a chair in front of the mirror – He sits, with you on top. You have the view and the control.

What if you feel insecure?

Don’t worry – mirror sex isn’t about perfection, but about arousal. Your body in action isn’t an Instagram shot. It’s real. Vibrant. Hot. If it feels a bit overwhelming, just start small: a sideways glance, a glimpse. You probably notice that it is less confronting than you thought – and maybe even addictively good.

Mirror sex without a mirror? Also an option.

No mirror at hand? Use your phone camera as reflection. Place it somewhere (or in selfie mode) and consider it a playful teaser – for both of you. Or include it in sexting: a video, a shot from your perspective. Just as arousing.

Last but not least

Mirror sex isn’t just about the visuals, but about self-conscious desire. About daring to see yourself in your most raw, aroused state. And sharing it with your partner. Your imagination plays along, your body automatically follows.

Dare to watch. Yourself. The other. What you are doing together. And discover the extra layers of lust you can feel… if you just keep your eyes open.