De kunst van edging: uitstellen voor een explosievere climax

You know that moment, you’re close. You feel the excitement building, your body tenses, your breath quickens and then … nothing. Well, not yet. You stop. You wait. And you continue to play. And stop again. And so on. Until you reach a point where feeling and loosing yourself merge. 

What is edging?

Edging is deliberately delaying your orgasm while continuing stimulation. You take yourself (or each other) to the edge, stop or slow down just before coming, and then start again. And again. Until you reach a point where letting go feels like a nuclear explosion of pleasure.

Why does it work so well?

1. It builds tension in your whole body.
   More blood flow, more sensitivity, more arousal. 
2. Your body does not get used to ‘fast kicks’.
   By delaying it, your orgasm becomes less superficial and much more intense. 
3. You learn to control and sense your own arousal.
   What drives you crazy? When do you get too close? What do you want to feel longer?

Solo edging: practicing with yourself

1. Start by slowing down.
   Touch yourself, but at a slower pace and with less pressure than you’re used to. 
2. When you feel you’re almost coming, you stop.
   Breathe deeply. Squeeze your legs together. Hold your hand still. If necessary, think of something else. 
3. Let the tension drop till you’re in control again, and then start again.
   Repeat as often as you want. 2x, 5x, 10x…
4. And then … let go.
   Want to bet you won’t get a ‘mwah’ orgasm?

Pro tip: edging + toy (for example an air pressure vibrator) = fireworks!

Edging with a partner

Edging together can be very connecting. You learn to read and feel each other even more, playing with control, surrender and timing. 

• Agree on signals. When do you stop? How do you indicate that you are almost there?
• Alternate taking the lead. One of you determines the pace, the other follows. 
• Incorporate this in roleplay or dirty talk. “Not yet.” “Hold back.” “Not until I say so.”

You discover quickly: powerlessness can be very sexy (if mutually coordinated). 

How long should you stretch it? 

There is no golden time. Some find three rounds more than enough, while others can go on for an hour. You will feel where your boundary between tension and frustration lies. 

Edging is about teasing, not tormenting yourself.
It’s about surprising yourself, not denying yourself. 

Note: don’t force yourself

If your body says ‘I’m done with it,’ listen. Edging is not about achieving anything, it’s only play. And sometimes an orgasm is so good because it comes unexpectedly fast. Anything goes. 

The orgasm it not the goal, but the reward

Edging teaches you that sex is not a race. You don’t have to go anywhere, you don’t have to achieve anything. You’re already crushing it by just feeling, discovering and playing. 

So, whether you play solo, or together, with fingers or with toys, fast or slow: dare to edge. Who knows, maybe you’ll be blown away!